Grandchildren…..
Today is my oldest grandson’s 14th birthday. We didn’t have the opportunity to celebrate with him. Last April, was our youngest grandson’s birthday. he was 10 and we didn’t do it then either. Their father, my son, and their mother are divorced. This is a devastating act that sometimes has the harshest negative effect on the children and the grandparents. Our ex-daughter-in-law has remarried, has a little girl and a NEW FAMILY. One that does not include us. The boys now have a “new” daddy, aunts and uncles AND new grandparents! A new life which has been made abundantly clear has no room for us. One should realize that by dismissing a former family the effect is hurtful and long lasting to the children. The grandparents suffer more than anyone could possibly imagine. Only to hold those feeling close to their heart so not to cause additional grief to the children. After being with the children from birth, helping to raise them, having them almost every weekend, holidays and sick days, it is a very quiet, lonely, empty life without them. You send cards and gifts for every holiday only to wonder if they have been received. This is the life of grandparents after a divorce “from their grandchildren”….